Who Am I?
Have you ever asked the question: ‘Who am I? What makes me, me?’
As a teenager, I really struggled to understand who I was. I started to put value into what I did, as opposed to who I was as a person. Mistakes weighed heavily on me; an angry outburst to a friend or a failed piece of homework started to change how I felt about myself.
I also started to obsess about other people. I looked at other people in my year and wondered how I could copy their lives – how I could become more like them, if only I was good at this subject, if only I found public speaking easier, if only I felt as bubbly and confident as them. I started to pin all my hopes on becoming someone completely different.
I didn’t realise I was losing myself in the process.
Growing and changing can be difficult, and it can be hard to outline exactly who you are and what your values are. It is natural to change over time. Die-hard passions for hobbies and interests can fade away a little; opinions change, priorities shift. This is normal. In adulthood, we grow and change all the time. The truth is, though – sometimes our idea of our ‘best self’ can be quite different to other people’s. Our strengths, our goals, or ideas, and – just as importantly – what makes us happy is unique to each of us.
Even though I’ve had years of coming to terms with my own strengths, my own interests, my own style of doing things, my own upbringing, and my own beliefs, I still remember how hard it was to feel ‘different’. Sometimes, I still struggle with it – particularly with social media and pressures from people around me who might be quite different to who I am.
The thing is – and I know it’s a cliché, but bear with me – life would be awful if we were all good at the same things. That’s just a fact. Can you imagine a world full of managers with no-one to manage? A world full of artists with no gallery owners and no-one to buy the paintings? (Actually I’d quite like a world full of artists, but it’s probably not practical.) Or the World Cup with no fans to enjoy it? One of the best things you can do for yourself is to identify your own strengths and then own them. You don’t have to be the best at everything – but you can be proud of what you can do on your own terms. You are wonderfully unique – embrace who you are, and live fully, bravely, authentically, yourself.
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